Dealing With
Anger
James 1:19-20
19 Know this, my
beloved brothers: let every person be quick to hear, slow to speak, slow to
anger; 20 for the anger of man
does not produce the righteousness of God.
It happens in the work place, in our families, and yes, even in
“the family of faith” – our churches. Anger is a journey. It often begins with
a hurt, a slight, or a simple misunderstanding. We all have our triggers. What
is it that sets you off? Maybe you’ve been left out, disrespected, or unfairly
criticized. Maybe it’s being blamed for someone else’s screwup
or the blatant betrayal of a trusted friend. You’re irritated. You’re
frustrated. You’re angry. Left undealt with, that anger can grow, leading
you down a path of bitterness, regret, and even broken relationships.
James teaches that controlling our anger begins with rooting
ourselves in the Word of God. It’s when we align ourselves with God’s Word that
guides us and shapes us, that our lives begin to line
up with the character of God. A simple tip: Listen first THEN speak. Be
good listeners and slow talkers (James 1:19-20). When those feelings of anger
spark, take a deep breath and count to ten before speaking. This will slow you
down on the way to anger. And never, ever postpone dealing with your anger.
Don’t let the sun go down on your anger and allow Satan to get a hold of
another moment through your anger (Ephesians 4:26). You’ll be glad. I promise
you that.